Where have the days gone? The last time I took a breath it was Friday night, I blinked and Monday is gone! What a great weekend. I hosted 20+ singles and a handful of couples for good balance. Matchmaker is definitely not on my résumé of skills...but what a great vibe and energy. I took a few moments during the party to step back and watch an amazing group of people who had only met (for the most part) that evening, yet the room was a buzz with people making new connections. The room was full of smiles and easy vibes, innocent flirtations and warmth. What a lucky girl I am to know so many great people. Even newcomers were welcomed and mingled easily a,one the group. It was effortless for me...
Funny how counterintuitive life can be at times. The harder you work in yourrofessional life the more opportunities come your way. This has paid off for me professionally. Personally however, the harder I've worked the more disappointed I've found myself. Perhaps the effort is naturally laced with expectation for the outcome, we are so driven in today's world to create results, it can be tough to sit back and enjoy the pure pleasure of what comes about on its own.
Saturday I sat back and spent the afternoon between yoga and the spa. The party came together, in fact it came together better then I ever imagined. I was relaxed and had the opportunity to just enjoy the party myself rather then trying to be everywhere to ensure everyone was having a good time and meeting new people. Why do we always want to work so hard? This was perhaps the best party I've ever hosted and enjoyed :)
The same can be for dating. I have worked so hard in relationships only to end up disappointed when the other person never matched my effort. Now, I'm sitting back...remaining open, even having to carve out time for me and hold it a bit at bay. Dates have come out of the wood works in the past week. There aren't enough days in a week... I'm not sure what happened apart from a girl learning to share her smile with the world again.
Today I attended a high profile networking lunch and keynote. Despite my passion for networking I woke up anxious about the event this morning. I contacted the man who invited me as his guest looking for input so I could figure out my approach. I finally ran out of time to prepare with a busy morning in the office and some reports due. When I arrived at the event, I somehow changed my mindset and surrendered to letting others lead. We were ushered into the per-event VIP session with the guests of honour and a small handful of head table patrons, all the makings for a nerve wracking experience. Instead, I sat back. It was natural...shaking hands and sharing experience with upper levels of government and private sector.
I returned to the office after feeling pretty amazing. I had been dreading the event for no reason. The second I let go of the notion that I was somehow responsible to make anything happen and just relaxed into being myself, doors opened. I met some incredible people and unlocked new doors for business opportunities. It occurred to me that dating has been a similarly anxious experience at times. When I feel no pressure I've always relaxed and allowed the real me to come out. I kinda like that girl...why do I always keep her a secret?
Boy, is life full when you let opportunities come on their own, and it's so much easier when you don't try to take responsibility for the results :)
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