Embracing the Single Life, Still Smiling :)

It's been a few months! A busy few months, of doing everything and anything my single heart desires this summer.  Between a new role at work, travel for work, travel for fun and just plain fun...it's been an amazing adventure this summer.  The best part is realizing I'm completely free to make choices as I go. I lived so much of my life with a plan.  In hindsight, it really only limited me from the endless opportunities that probably came and went. 

With a focus on friends and an open heart, I have met more people experienced more moments that took my breath away, and really just haven't stopped more than long enough to acknowledge, I have a pretty sweet life right now.  Why was I so focused on finding someone?  Why was I afraid to go into a weekend without a plan? To avoid vacation time alone? 

My weeks have flowed, from one to the next. From spontaneous trips to the cottage, boating events, random nights out on the town, dinners at some of the hottest spots in the city, some incredible dates. Pinch me?!?!? Has this summer been real?  

The Smile Project has continued to open my world to possibilities that I'd never known.  The simple act of generously and genuinely passing good vibes through the offer of a SMILE has literally changed my life.  I began the smile project to disprove the theory that the reason so many women are single is because a man won't approach them.  There was half truth to the theory.  That women were intimidating to men, and vice versa (yes my male friends have tested the theory too) except it wasn't for the reasons we all thought.  It's not because you're too beautiful, or too strong, or that the other didn't have courage, and online was the cowards way.  It's because nothing about you was open!!!  We have been taught to be bitches, to look like we don't care about a thing, to look like we've got it all going on.  Guess what, the opposite sex has believed our act and followed accordingly.  If you're busy wi your face in your phone, walking like you're on a mission, stone faced so your poker opponent won't know what's on your mind, you've just told the world, don't mess with me...don't be surprised when they don't. 

I literally asked 3 different men, on 3 different dates why they choose online.  Every one of them gave me the same answer...women in this city are not approachable.  Let's face it, there are few fears greater for humans than the fear of rejection. Crush the fear, and show some warmth :). They're looking at you...tell them you're open to talking.  In fact, say hello!