Expectations setting you back???

There are just some people who make life look soooo easy... the ones that let everything slide off their back. You must know who I'm talking about?!?  Things just seem to fall into place for them... so what is their secret?  No expectations...

Have you ever sat at a table after placing an order, waiting... waiting... waiting... getting frustrated, hungry, annoyed... then you give up, get up to use the restroom, and find out the food came less than a minute after you left? Happens to me all the time! When I expect something I somehow lay out a plan for what it's going to look like, how it's going to be, how long it will take, what it will feel, taste, or smell like... the likelihood of me actually predicting the outcome is almost non-existent, therefore, I have already set myself up for disappointment. When you let go of that expectation, change your thought process, you set yourself up to be open to and accepting of whatever happens. Funny how when you do that, things turn out better than what you might have "expected". How many times have you said that before?!?

So here it is... I decided to let it all go for the holidays. Quit trying to sort through the piles of drama and dilemmas that cloud my dating life. I promised myself I would "get through the holidays" and this would be the needed breather... I let it go. Anyone can handle 10 days, then a fresh beginning in 2012 right? 

Again... Universe sends a signal. When I stop expecting to hear from, talk to, see, or plan anything with anyone, I find myself suddenly hit with text messages, a phone call, a few requests to get together and a facebook message. I awoke to an Instant Message from JASON wishing me a Merry Christmas at 7am and reconfirming plans to get together tomorrow while he is in town, a Facebook message from JOHN wishing me a Merry Christmas followed by an I miss you, and later a text from JOEY. Less expected was the get together with CHRIS, with whom I spent 4 hours today who spoiled me with gifts... and to whom I brought nothing :o...

Putting everything back into context, if I had any expectations for the day, chances are I'd find disappointment in most of these things somewhere - timing, from who, when, about, why not...  Instead, my Christmas was a little less stressful... things fell into place nicely, and here I sit... satisfied.

Hmmm... that was easy ;)  Let it go...  Merry Christmas friends!