Are you holding yourself back?

I took a couple of days to reflect after the recent situation in which the terms of a relationship went from a friendship to a friendship with benefits. I took a bit of time to let myself be the victim. Then I got to work... and started asking myself and others who know me best why I continue to attract this type of person.  It continues to come back to one thing... do I believe I'm worth it?

In conversations with friends struggling with single life and dating, there is a common theme. We all seem to sell ourselves short. We're not pretty/handsome enough, smart enough, rich enough... you name it, endless excuses why we don't feel worthy of what we want.  When in reality, we have so much to offer.

How can we break this? By taking our own positive inventory.  At the end of a relationship I have a few times found myself holding on, for what? Because I was afraid they would find someone better and that would make me feel even less worthy... look around, you need to know you're a great catch.

If you struggle with coming up with your own list of positive attributes, you can start the way I did, by asking the people who know you best, the people who choose to be in your life, that make your life great. You clearly have something to offer them, figure out what that is. Let your ego pump itself... say it, mean it, believe it. I am the best, and I only deserve the best.

I recently read a good book, which I find myself referring friends to over and over, and have pledged to repeat reading from time to time, check it out if you are interested in taking a hard look at what you are doing to prevent the happiness you deserve in life "Excuses Begone!" by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I'm not one for promoting other people's theories, but this book really adjusted my thinking. And despite my recent setback with Chris, I am adjusting my thinking, and back on my feet!

What are you waiting for? Get happy, be in today!

"Can't get it if you don't keep giving" (One Life, Hedley)