Your Calm or Your Storm?

I read a piece this week that brought some pretty clear guidance to anyone wondering how to identify the right relationship - it really came down to this. Are they your calm or your storm? Let’s face it, life is a non-stop crazy train. These past two weeks were another small example of life throwing a lot at me. I spent about 36 hours at home in the city between two business trips, and an extension to visit my brother out west.

Things were a little mentally and physically, shall we say stressful, as I contemplated making it all work and fitting it all in. Between work, friends, family, love and the general time I need for myself, I felt like I was running a million miles a minute in my head just to ensure I could make it all happen. In the end, it always does. I have countless examples in life to prove it to myself.

In my 36 hours, I planned to swap suitcases, get in a workout, and see my guy. The whole plan had me losing sleep at night wondering how to pull it off. Sure enough. It all worked out just fine. My guy made it easy. He picked me and my freshly swapped suitcase up to spend the night with him, before he would drop me off at the airport again early the next morning while the rest of the City was fast asleep. I melted into him arms and drifted to sleep. For a few hours, I embraced the calm and a few precious hours of sleep. The stress and chaos of my schedule faded away.

I returned home again, 2 weeks, 5 flights, 5 cities and 4 meetings later, I was completed drained. After spending a quiet evening at home fighting some jet lag, I couldn’t help but wish to be beside him. Whether it’s a glance across the room, or the warmth of his sleeping body beside me, I’ve come to appreciate he is my calm…

I can smile to myself today, feeling grateful to finally know I never needed to chase storms. My life will always throw enough at me. I certainly do not need a relationship to add to it. Every relationship will certainly have it’s stressful moments, but those no longer include a place that doesn’t make my heart feel safe, full, and happy. No need for questions, validation, or issues of trust. A place, as they say, to peacefully rest my heart…