Make Some Space for YOU!

Today I woke up, made myself breakfast in bed, hit CrossFit, bought groceries, did three loads of laundry including bedding, cleaned the exterior floor ceiling windows that make up the entire back wall of my condo, cleaned the bathroom top to bottom, made plans for tonight, made myself lunch, and stopped long enough to reflect and realize… when you make space for yourself in life, it is simply amazing what can be accomplished. It’s exactly 3pm as I sit to write this, and that was a hell of a productive day. Oh, and there is more to come. I have plenty of time to sweep the floors, pain my nails, and sit out on the balcony to catch some sun, all before my friends arrive for an evening out in the city.

Life is short, so we are always reminded. It’s true. Yet, it is so easy to fill it up with things less meaningful – people who zap you of your energy, relationships that have no future, mind numbing activities that activities that keep us distracted  from our purpose.  I’m definitely the first one to say all things in moderation. In recent weeks, I’ve taken a backseat to be more of a passive participant and observer of my own life.  For a while I felt myself burning out, but couldn’t figure out for the life of me what was happening.

My life was so full. It was exactly as I wanted it to be. Except it wasn’t full with the things that actually mattered to ME. In fact, I’m not even convinced I knew what mattered to me anymore. I did it all, wined and dined with all kinds of different social circles, dated what felt like half of a small town, hosted parties, expanded my friendship circle… I was in. In on the coolest places, parties, and people. In recent months after taking on greater responsibility with work, settling into my new life in the city, and a few life disappointments, I decided it was time to STOP. Slow down. Reconnect with me.

All around me were people doing exactly what I was doing. So was I copying them or were they following my lead? Holding on to ridiculous and unhealthy relationships. Wasting precious moments on mind-numbing things that really only kept me away from moving toward my purpose.

Now I have the choice, to participate more or less in anything. To make decisions one day at a time, one activity at a time. To do the things I want to do. Well, truth is, I always did. I just never sat still long enough to check back in with myself and understand what those things were.  Make some space.  You will be amazed at what you find that fills it naturally. Fall in love with the life that was meant for you, not the one you build to please everyone else, or to avoid trying to figure out what it is that YOU want. Make space for new things to enter your life.