The learning continues... I've recently been dating a lawyer, not that his job is important other than for general background information. I can say I have no hopes or expectations for the relationship, but in a promise to remain open, I figured it couldn't hurt to continue to get to know him, and in the meantime it is helping me continue to learn about myself.
Alas, something came up that made me question a few things. Do you have to be intrusive to get to know someone? This partly arose out of the trend toward a heavy reliance on texting in the communication realm of dating. To be honest, it's really becoming a turn off for me... I am all for a text anytime to say hello, to send a random thought or smile. I can be quite smitten with a text out of the blue. However, that's where it ends...full on getting to know you conversations by text just aren't my style. Yet, a very small handful of the men that I have dated have actually picked up the phone.
Ok, text versus phone aside, back to the lawyer...both in text and in person he has suggested a necessary level of intrusiveness as a sign of interest. Turns out I'm not intrusive enough...I guess there's potentially some level of truth to that. I feel when the chemistry is there, the conversation can just flow...no intrusion required. Is that high expectations? Early on in one particular relationship, the conversation was so incredible I might have bought the product sight unseen...
Hmmm.... After a crazy busy week, it's definitely time to take a breather from the City and dating...off to my favourite escape to recenter :) .
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