Have you noticed how most of us single people are always attracted to the wrong types? The bad boy, the party girl, whatever it is we know we shouldn't be... I can actually remember a handful of times when I said to a friend "he's not really my type", "no sparks", "no chemistry". You name it. Then there were the ones that seemed off the charts my type! Clearly those went no where fast... LOL
Now that I've exhausted the idea of "my type", and almost thoroughly given up hope on dating... I agreed to one last date last night. Just coffee... easy enough right? During the day the thought of even going out with another one, and the potential disappointment had me considering bailing altogether. In the end, I think it helped... my mindset shifted. I approached it like a business situation. I meet strangers all the time. Piece of cake, and I can usually quickly sum up whether they are people I like or not. So, knowing at this point I am not interested in committing to anything anyway after boat loads of disappointments, I met AARON for coffee.
Unlike CHRIS who I'd spent hours talking to before meeting, I had only exchanged brief emails with AARON over the past month, so there was no pressure, no feelings. At first, it was your typical, two strangers meeting awkwardness...45 minutes in, I heard myself say - maybe this guy isn't really my type. Then... out of no where, came a voice that said, "just give it a chance, your type hasn't been working anyway". So, I stuck it out. Conversation got more relaxed, and AARON seems like a decent guy. And... suddenly, I decided... I might not be so bad at dating afterall if I would just resist the need to make snap decisions. I am in no rush. Sure enough, we said goodbye, and before I could make my getaway, AARON wanted to set a timeline for when we might see each other again. With him travelling on business, he suggested a week this weekend. In my head, I know that is perfect! Lots of time... that's what I need right now. Not the typical pushy, A-type, rushy guys I've been attracting.
On a side note, upon returning to Vegas, CHRIS was in touch... and the "just my type" pulled a total douche bag move, initiating a conversation that went against everything he ever told me he stood for. Interesting... Mr. True Blue put on a very good show for a while. But just as everyone tells me, wait and see how long someone can hold up their act. EPIC FAIL. Seriously disappointing...
Maybe the "not really my type" isn't so bad afterall... In the meantime, a little "me" time and some good friend time is just what I need.
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