Settling and Stuck???

So, I've spent a couple of days thinking... things are extremely quiet. My resolution for my life this year is to truly stay "hands off" and let life take shape without my influence.  For a moment, I caught myself wishing I could have even just one of the old relationships back... then snapped ack to reality and realized I don't actually want what they were, I just want the chance at what I thought it would be, possibility. After chatting with a friend in a lonely moment, I realize how lucky I am.  I'm not stuck anymore!!! For years I lived in an empty relationship. It was fine, there was nothing major wrong. It just didn't bring anything to my life.  How often do we stick around because it's comfortable, easy, familiar, less scary?

The piece I haven't quite wrapped my head around is why we get so stuck... why we give up and settle when our needs are not being met. Why everyone around us can see it, but we are in denial.  The reasons are easy to identify, but difficult to accept

1) Fear - we won't find a better match
2) Patience - uncomfortable in our own skin so we rely on others
3) Self-Worth - believe what we're getting is all we deserve
4) Failure - the idea that letting a relationship go is a failure
5)...

So many things. Even when we recognize what is holding us back, the idea of doing anything about it is often too much.  Sometimes we refuse to admit or can't see we are stuck, but it's easy to point out someone else who is... I guess there is something to be said for not being able to see when you are stuck inside your own storm.  

Now as I sit stuck on the idea of being on the outside looking in, I ask myself why it was worth getting unstuck? Life is too short. It's that simple.  So my plan for 2012... to know what I want. And I'm starting with inner happiness, and a list of what I want. It's out there... and in the end it's going to be worth it!

Special thanks to the many friends who remind me everyday what I'm worth. Don't settle, you are worth it too!

"When you let go of who you are, you become who you were meant to be"