Going back to my theory on coincidence, and the idea that things happen for a reason just when you need them to whether it's the people who come into your life just when you needed the, the way a situation unfolds, anything really...
I'm sure you can all relate to hearing someone tell you, "trust me, you will just know...". I've heard that line every time I've had heartache, disappointment or was on the verge of giving up. Sometimes you just want to say, prove it... and today, a good friend of mine did!
Maria has been dating off and on since her own separation. Like every single person, many interesting stories to tell. But in recent months she's had her eyes on someone that came into her life through a connection with someone else in her family. Despite some promising dates... her thoughts circled around Joe. A project brought him from out of town to spending some time visiting her. Within a week, Maria went from the stable grounded person coaching me through my own dilemmas, to an emotional experience of her own. Joe stayed through the week, and left to work on another project that weekend, and it was clear that Maria had been overcome by the connection. There were circumstances in the beginning that seemed might prevent this from unfolding - a great deal of distance, loose ends on an old relationship, etc... but by the time Joe returned for a second week with Maria, both had decided this was it!!! The real deal!!!
Maria asked me, can this be it, love after 2 weeks? And for once in my life, I've never been more sure about believing what they say... when you know, you just know!
I'm overflowing with excitement for Maria, and a renewed sense of optimism that is can really just happen...
This is Maria & yes, I totally agree, when you know, you just know!! We all have hopes, dreams, fears. We all have huge expectations each time we meet a new guy/girl - is this the one? Am I in love? Lust? Infatuation? Truth is - when you know, you just know. As a 50 something it is hard to find lasting love. I have a history and, I'm sure, baggage. Everyone I meet as a potential partner has baggage - sometimes an ex-wife or ex-wives!!! Often young children - do I want to be a step mom? So for over 3 years, I have been "finding" myself - who am I? What do I want my life to be? AND, who do I want as a partner? After many dates from an online dating site, I met someone naturally, organically and, yes, the "L" word has been vocalized. So.....my advice is trust the universe to bring you what you need - it will happen. Good luck!!
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DeleteAfter reading all of these online dating posts I feel compelled to join the discussion and share some of my own experiences.
After a devastating break up a year and a half ago, I decided to join a paid online dating site, more as a distraction than anything else - proving your point, online dating is a cesspool for the emotionally unavailable lol.
The first month on the site was a write off because I was a crying mess who had love for only 2 things...cupcakes and wine...and the fact that I wasnt finding an exact replica of my ex (but one who was in the same stage of life as me and wanted the same things)on the site was not really "working for me". I tried to have an open mind and kept with it and after 6 months I had met with 16 men and spoken to countless others. I had some interesting dates, funny stories and actually met a lot of really great guys but just wasnt feeling that spark or connection. I finally decided that I was going to stop online dating because clearly the problem was me and not the men I was meeting (ok fine, SOME of the men were the problem...but those are stories for another time!).
The day after I canceled my membership I randomly met up with a guy I had known since I was 6 and had secretly loved on and off for the last 10 years of my life. He was my go-to guy when I was single...he lived in BC most of the time so that was perfect because I didnt have to actually commit to him. It was a convenient fantasy that we were "meant to be"...blah blah! Part of me felt like I had to make sure that there was nothing there in order to close that chapter...and I did just that. He expressed interest in me and was back in Ontario indefinitely but my feelings had changed and I told him that we would only ever be "friends". (So cliche, I know). Feeling free and excited to just spend time on my own, do yoga, spend time with girlfriends, take baking classes (read: cupcake addiction) and more importantly NOT think about men/relationships/sex, I was ready to move on with my life and felt great.
2 days after that, I randomly met my boyfriend through a friend I have known for years. For all intents and purposes, the timing was not right. He was 4 days out of a long term relationship and not looking and I was looking forward to being on my own for a while...but something clicked. We have been together for almost a year and he is the best man I have ever been with. No games, so respectful, hilarious, smart and looks at me like Im the most beautiful woman in the world....even when Im in grungy sweats and have a disgusting cold. It's just easy (for lack of a better word)without being boring and that's refreshing.For the first time, I am head over heels in love with someone that I can actually picture building a life with.
Ive taken away the idea (similar to Maria)that things will happen when they happen...you just may have to date a lot of internet creeps before it does!! LOVE your stories Jax...keep em coming!
xo Mich
Wow! What a story Mich. Thanks for sharing :-) that carries a strong point about timing and the power of fate. What an inspiration. I am so happy to hear you are getting your happy ending! This gives hope to the rest of us who continue on the fearless journey called destiny... please keep sharing! I loved this story.
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