A girlfriend just came through a similar dating experience to my experience with Chris - the all-in followed by the freak out! Looking back I'm starting to find the situation just plain entertaining. So... after a few weeks of the Freak Out behaviour, Armond invites my friend out again. Hesitant, she insists on a casual evening, encourages Armond to bring a friend, and she brings me. I think this was genius on her part! She suggested to me, this would give her a real feel for his behaviour around her in a social situation. It's always easy one on one.
So... the night starts, we arrive at Armond's place at 8pm, his friend Bryan is running late. The conversation gets off to an awkward start. I can immediately sense the loss in interest in my friend's engagement in the situation. The natural schmoozer in me comes out, working to keep conversation going to at least a tolerable minimum. Bryan arrives a short while later. Now it just gets more awkward. There is a sudden air of arrogance between the guys, and conversation gets a bit irritating. My friend at this point has barely said a word, it's not even 9pm.
A quick text to her to guage her interest, said "Should we just go get dinner ourselves?". Her instant reply, "Yup". That's it... the signal. She's out! And this should be a fun challenge for me. Given I am likely to never see these guys again I have nothing to lose. The guys plan to take us to an Art Show. It's already 9pm (although only an hour after we arrived). So... I took the opportunity to suggest my friend and I haven't eaten anything and would like to go get dinner, and can meet up with the guys after they finish at the art show. Barely keeping our giggles in, the guys are in utter shock... conversation gets increasingly awkward, the only good thing is that my friend and I are so emotionally uninvested it doesn't phase us one bit. We assure the guys we are just too hungry, and to text us after the show...
We raced out to my car giggling uncontrollably, trying to get in the car as if the guys can't hear us, slipping and sliding in the oncoming snow storm. We laughed the whole way back to Burlington where we decide we deserve a great girls dinner at the Martini House. And there you have it! The rescue was a total success. We spent the next 2 hours laughing hysterically about the situation, and how much fun it actually made the whole night. The reflected back on relationships that we had once felt so desperate to save, only to realize the situations were wildly entertaining and not worth one ounce of the energy we put into stressing over them.
And so we again can appreciate the true value of friends :). We can survive anything, laugh at anything, and reflect on anything with the right people in our lives. Friends will never let a friend settle. So lean a little. Turns out dating in pairs can be a LOT of fun!
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